“It’s all about YOUR journey with YOUR child”.
Now a day, just as
the height of building is rising above our imagination, the height of our
dreams and expectations for our children is also increasing quickly day by day.
Trend of competition and comparison in children will always remain talk of the
town for all the parents. Just the way you love to capture every moment of your
child, have you ever tried to capture this fear in your child called ‘COMPARISON?’ Are we forgetting our
core responsibility - ‘ACCEPTANCE’ towards
our child as parents?
It
may take one minute to say to your child, ‘See!
Your friend got 95%, why don’t you also study more?’ Or ‘Your classmate stood first in Dance competition, why don’t you join such classes
instead of spending your time in painting?’ And unfortunately this one
minute statement is stealing their peace of mind for next 100 moments of their
enjoyment. We may compare their academic results, their area of interest, and
an ability level intentionally or unintentionally, but it is crucial to understand
and accept the fact that ‘EVERY CHILD IS BLESSED WITH A UNIQUE TALENT’. And in the battle of comparison your
child can get affect negatively in the following ways:
Stress: Research says that, the child feels the load of
expectations if he or she is getting compared constantly and may affect their
peace of mind. Being parents, your duty is to make them ‘perform’ and not to pressurize.
Act wisely.
Affects metal health: Constant comparison may put your child’s life in
risk from mental health view point. It may lead to negative thoughts and cause
depression as well. It is our responsibility to keep them joyous mentally along
with physically.
Creates distance: While making comparison, unknowingly you are
letting your child to go away from you and as well as from your family. Some
negative changes can be found in their behaviour as well. Don’t keep distance in
understanding your child.
Inappropriate attitude: It is all about how you are treating your child along
with how you are teaching to your child. Major attitude problems may arise if
child is being criticized every time. Spend some time to understand how they
want and not what they want.
Hurdles in success: Negative
thoughts, mental illness, hesitation, less confidence all these factors will
let down the success of your child and dreams, while your goal is always to
raise them and not to reduce their confidence. Be a reason that your child
cherishes you everywhere.
Instead of
comparison, let’s give confidence to our children, let’s give wings to our
children, let’s learn to accept our children as they are, let’s give them the
joy of their childhood, let’s appreciate the talent they have, let’s encourage
them to achieve their dreams, and let’ be a part of their STORY.